Clean Pain? or Dirty Pain?

Life is a crazy, unpredictable journey of ups and downs.  Pain is a universal experience that we all face at some point.  The trouble is we go to any length to avoid pain, pretend it’s not there: anything to make it vanish.  Based on Buddhist philosophy of samsaras, emotional pain is divided into two groups: 

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Evolving Relationships and Trauma

Those who are closest to us, the ones we feel safe and loved with, can create the ideal conditions that allow for new growth and transformation. On good days we might look at our partners and say thank you for helping me grow. The days when our partner is angry, unreasonable or distant: that’s our

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Spiritual Bypass – Lost in Bliss

Everything is beautiful… in its own way. If any defense mechanisms could be called beautiful, it would be spiritual bypass. On the surface this looks great. I can be happy and I don’t ever have to feel sad again. Truth is, it’s the same as any other defense mechanism; it leaves us feeling disconnected and

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