The Power of Paying Attention

What we pay attention to shapes our world and can make a radical change in how we view our reality; altering our direction and changing how we experience and move through life. We may focus only on the negative if we live in an automatic, unconscious way. We start to see mainly negative people and

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Evolving Relationships and Trauma

Those who are closest to us, the ones we feel safe and loved with, can create the ideal conditions that allow for new growth and transformation. On good days we might look at our partners and say thank you for helping me grow. The days when our partner is angry, unreasonable or distant: that’s our

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Negotiating Fear and Panic

How do we feel safe again in the world when we are facing stress and anxiety on a global level as we have never seen before? We are in a confusing and destabilizing time. Nobody knows what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, or a couple months from now. What’s it going to look

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Spiritual Bypass – Lost in Bliss

Everything is beautiful… in its own way. If any defense mechanisms could be called beautiful, it would be spiritual bypass. On the surface this looks great. I can be happy and I don’t ever have to feel sad again. Truth is, it’s the same as any other defense mechanism; it leaves us feeling disconnected and

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Avoidance Sabotages Growth

Why are we afraid of meeting ourselves just as we are? Scared to be with our thoughts, emotions and our true feelings? The major source of unnecessary anguish I see in my work are those who use avoidance as a way to cope. We have been taught to be afraid of so-called difficult emotions. We

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