Happiness enters when we leave the door open. I grew up in Montreal and as lovely a city as it is, my family never left the door open or even ajar. Literally or metaphorically. Part of this is living in an urban city; it did not make sense to not protect the family and everything within our home.
Part of this was the family system I grew up in. You guard what is yours and you keep the secrets of the family safe within the family. That tradition was carefully handed down to me as it had been handed down to my parents before.
Many cherished and valuable legacies are handed down through our family ancestor lines. The tough reality is what’s also being inherited are archaic beliefs. No one would choose consciously to pass these on. Through the science of behavioural epigenetics, we know that influences that genetically impact our lives are being handed down to us and our children.
Leading edge research in this field shows how it may negatively influence the inheritors of these genes. Results reveal, when trauma occurs our bodies adapt and make physiological changes to better handle future stressors. These modified genetics are being passed on to prepare the next generation to deal with comparable trauma.
Sounds good; yet, if you or earlier generations were traumatized by living through war, domestic violence or sexual abuse, what’s passed on is a skill set of hyper vigilant reflexes that would prove valuable in unsafe, dangerous, life threatening environments.
What if life isn’t like that for the inheritor? It can be confusing and interfere with their present reality, make them feel damaged without understanding why. Creating chaos within their bodies which may react as if they are living under assault when they are not.
Where does Happiness Fit
We look to our family lines to resolve inherited patterns, beliefs and traumas. No longer bound by obsolete thinking we move forward toward something that reflects the modern world, ourselves as individuals, and where our consciousness lies today.
What about the wisdom, strength and joy that is also positioned in our family lines? Is that a source we can mine?
Of course, it is part of the legacy we inherit.
We get it all. We do not get to cherry pick. It’s essential to unveil a way to accept both the dark and light of our heritage because power resides in it. We can finally rest on the force that is held within all of it. It’s our inheritance. It’s what has come before. Not our defining personal experience of us as individuals.
This is a powerful position when we locate a place within ourselves to make peace with where we come from and all our ancestors who came before us. This goes beyond the people we know about. Welcoming a level of self-acceptance and happiness at being within your own skin and connected into those powerful, energetic lines we are all connected to.
The choice to be happy can be a subtle one. After all, who would be afraid to be happy? Sounds ridiculous, but oh so many people understand the paradigm of sorrow, lack or misery yet are fearful of taking the reins of happiness and contentment.
Steps towards true happiness and contentment may need to be measured in tiny increments. Like feeding a new born. This may be a new vibration and a bit of an adjustment to allow ourselves to be in a place of contentment. It may feel unsettling and foreign.
Initially, this can be a place to visit for short periods. Rarely is anyone living constantly in a natural state of happiness and contentment. That is not real life.
Life has the quality of many states. That is how we get to appreciate the gradient shades of what it is to be alive and a participant in life.