Clean Pain? or Dirty Pain?

Life is a crazy, unpredictable journey of ups and downs.  Pain is a universal experience that we all face at some point.  The trouble is we go to any length to avoid pain, pretend it’s not there: anything to make it vanish.  Based on Buddhist philosophy of samsaras, emotional pain is divided into two groups: 

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Negotiating Fear and Panic

How do we feel safe again in the world when we are facing stress and anxiety on a global level as we have never seen before? We are in a confusing and destabilizing time. Nobody knows what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, or a couple months from now. What’s it going to look

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Embrace Fear with Love and Compassion

In a blink of an eye the world changed and we entered into a time of major challenge and uncertainty. This moment will eventually pass, but while we are here how do we stay connected while practicing physical distancing or self-isolating? Part of the solution is for us to stay human with one another while

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Is Projection Harming your Relationships?

So much that emerges in our adult relationships we bring from our childhood. We build a template replicated from our earliest experiences that shows us how to create connections. The perfect childhood doesn’t exist. Perhaps we come from a family where we had reasonable parenting and grew up believing that people are inherently good and

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Avoidance Sabotages Growth

Why are we afraid of meeting ourselves just as we are? Scared to be with our thoughts, emotions and our true feelings? The major source of unnecessary anguish I see in my work are those who use avoidance as a way to cope. We have been taught to be afraid of so-called difficult emotions. We

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