Is Projection Harming your Relationships?

So much that emerges in our adult relationships we bring from our childhood. We build a template replicated from our earliest experiences that shows us how to create connections. The perfect childhood doesn’t exist. Perhaps we come from a family where we had reasonable parenting and grew up believing that people are inherently good and

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Avoidance Sabotages Growth

Why are we afraid of meeting ourselves just as we are? Scared to simply be with our thoughts, emotions and our true feelings? The major source of unnecessary anguish I see in my work are those who use avoidance as a way to cope. We have been taught to be afraid of so-called difficult emotions.

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New Circumstance Old Patterns

The air smells of freedom. Life is new.  The situation is fresh and alive.  Unexpectedly arriving, knocking at the door, pleading to be let back in, are the old comfortable patterns. They don’t make you happy.  But, are oh so familiar and comfortable in a most uncomfortable way and there appears to be is a lot

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Stuck in a Rut How to Move Forward

Getting stuck never has to turn into a personal crisis.  When all you produce is anxiety odds are you’re scared and have opted to let fear prevent you from moving forward.  Here are some ways to avoid anguish and get back on course. Future Self Advance your healing and growth by doing timeline work.  As in

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Combatting Fear One Step at a Time

Let’s try an experiment. Think of something that scares you.  It doesn’t have to be big, it’s not the size of the fear that matters.  It’s your reaction or intensity that it produces. Selection For each of us it will be a different.  Remember, things that initially appear the smallest and most insignificant can hold some of the

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